Birth date: July 10, 1933 URS date: October 29, 2011
(In Qahira’s own words and handwriting):
“Qahira Qalbi had many names like Jalelah, Patricia, Darlene, Landa, Engle, and Fraley. She was born very early on a July morning in 1933, and lived till the end of her life, and will be cremated at the end of this week. Her ashes will be thrown over the nearest Ocean from a plane, and the words will be heard: May the message of God reach far and wide.
“Memorial service will be announced: a pot-luck, with song and dance and a great good time to be had by all. Qahira promises to be there too.”
“At last! Going Home.”
“Qahira’s motto from the age of nine was, “Make it simple; keep it simple.” She added another in her forties: “The best way to love is to serve.”
“She really was born with a purpose and didn’t have to look for a great Cause.
Life was an adventure and, knowing her, still is.
She touched and was touched by many beautiful souls, and now is one with them all”
Jalelah (Qahira Qalbi) Fraley
Jalelah Engle Fraley, known in later years as Qahira Qalbi, passed peacefully on October 29, 2011, surrounded by loving family, after a prolonged illness. A Memorial service and Celebration of Life will be held on Saturday, November 19 at 2:00 PM, at the Camarillo United Methodist Church at 291 Anacapa Drive, Camarillo. Following the service, there will be a potluck meal, as she requested, “with song and dance and a great good time to be had by all,” at the Church’s Mission House across the parking lot from the sanctuary. For further information, contact Regina Coeli at email@example.com
Qahira was born to a Sufi family on July 10, 1933 in Staten Island, New York. Her parents, Fatha and Bakhti Engle, were initiates of Hazrat Inayat Khan and were Sufi Center leaders in New York City and in Cleveland. Fatha was Hazrat Inayat Khan’s driver, when he had a Model A Ford, and was Murshid’s secretary for some years.
Jalelah (Qahira) was married to Robert E. Fraley (Tansen-Muni) for 45 years, and she and Tansen-Muni raised six children in an avocado orchard in Camarillo Heights, California. She was preceded in death by her youngest son Alan David Fraley. She is survived by her children Dean (Daunne) Fraley, Eric (Beth) Fraley, Daryl (Lisa) Fraley, Tana (Nathan) Johnson, and Leila (Todd) Tackett. Other joys include 20 grandchildren and 6 great-grandchildren.
The Fraleys became well known for their pioneering promotion of natural childbirth and breastfeeding, organic farming, natural healthcare and fasting, and vegetarianism. Qahira was an active leader in the La Leche League, which promotes breastfeeding, and she taught childbirth classes.
Qahira was a cheraga and Siraj of the Universal Worship, a Retreat Guide, and a Center Leader for many years. After raising her beautiful family, she traveled widely as a Representative of the Sufi Order, spreading the Message of Love, Harmony, and Beauty, leading seminars and retreats, speaking at conferences, and guiding truly magical spiritual journeys to India, Turkey, Egypt, New Zealand, Australia, Israel, and Western and Eastern Europe. For several years in the 1990’s she was Director of the Abode of the Message.
Separated amicably from Tansen-Muni, Qahira spent the last twelve years of her life living in the bosom of her family in Camarillo, first in Leila’s home and then next door in Tana’s home, withdrawing from external activity due to a series of illnesses and strokes. Over the past three years, following a severe stroke, a large number of Qahira’s beloved friends and mureeds in the Sufi Order have been contributing to help the family care for her at home. The family wishes to thank all those who donated time, finances and extended prayers throughout Qahira’s illness. All your loving messages and expressions of support were appreciated.
As Pir Zia recently noted, Qahira Qalbi was “an extraordinary human being possessed of an extraordinarily magnanimous heart, a bright smile, an easy manner, and deep maternal wisdom. She inspired and was inspired by many beautiful souls, and she is now one with them all.” She is greatly cherished and will be greatly missed by many grateful hearts.